Female Orgasm 101
Unlike the male orgasm, which can occur mechanically whether he wants it too or not, the female orgasm is a bit more complicated and usually happens only under the right conditions. Many men (and women for that matter) don’t fully understand or appreciate the process.
We suppose this is forgivable since even the “experts” don’t completely agree on the nature of female orgasm. Still, there are many questions that can be answered if one wants to learn. Questions like…How does the female orgasm happen? What does it feel like for her? Are there different kinds of orgasms? Why does it take her so long sometimes? Below you’ll find the answer to all of those questions and more.
What does a female orgasm feel like?
Let’s skip the science for a moment and get right into the good stuff. What does it feel like for her? We could try to explain, but it will be a lot more effective if we let these women do it for us.
Physical signs and effects
Since all women are different reactions during orgasm will vary. However the following are some common tell-tale signs that she’s having an orgasm:
- Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the vagina and other parts of her body. These contractions may vary in number, depending on the intensity of the orgasm.
- Muscle contractions may also occur elsewhere in her body.
- The skin on her face and chest may flush red.
- She may moan, pant, or scream loud enough to frighten the neighbors.
- Her body may become rigid.
- Her face may take on a pained expression.
- She may emit a silky fluid from her urethra. This is often referred to as female ejaculation.
Types of orgasm
Women have two distinct types of orgasms. Clitoral orgasms and vaginal or G-spot orgasms. Some women enjoy both types and are able to have blended orgasms.
This type of orgasm may cause her to eject a silky fluid through her urethra. This is most commonly referred to as female ejaculation.
Women describe G-spot orgasms as deep, whole body experiences. These orgasms last much longer than clitoral orgasms, and the vagina muscles spasm and contract much more violently. Many say that G-spot orgasms are the most powerful type of orgasm and hit like rolling waves of pleasure.
Simultaneous stimulation of both the clitoris and the G-spot can lead to an intense orgasm that combines aspects of both orgasms.
A fair amount of women have the ability to experience multiple orgasms, a series of climaxes that occur closely together. These can occur from two to ten minutes apart (sequential multiple) or one right after another (serial multiple).
Multiple orgasms are an amazing experience and have been inspiring jealousy in guys for years.
Benefits of an orgasm
Besides the obvious (and wonderful) benefits of being extremely pleasurable and leaving her feeling sexually fulfilled, an orgasm also has some other positive effects:
- Orgasms Reduce stress and relieve tension. The build-up and release of an orgasm relives tensions in the nervous system.
- Orgasms help her sleep. Endorphins released during orgasm act as a natural tranquilizer and have a calming effect on the body.
- Orgasms help with cravings. Sexual stimulation and orgasms activate a natural amphetamine that regulates her appetite.
- Orgasms are an effective pain reliever. Got a headache? It’s not a reason not to have sex. Instead, it’s a reason too have sex. Endorphins released during sex and orgasm can greatly alleviate minor pains such as headaches and menstrual cramps.
- Orgasms are good for her skin. Working up a good sweat during sex helps to flush out toxins and also releases oils that nourish the skin. The deep breathing and elevated heart rate during orgasm causes oxygen circulation throughout the body which helps to keep organs and tissue healthy.
What she needs for an orgasm
As we mentioned earlier, the female orgasm is not mechanical thing as it tends to be for men. Her ability to orgasm easily depends much on her emotional state and the following conditions:
- She must be comfortable with her own body. If she’s never made herself orgasm, you probably won’t have much luck either.
- She must be relaxed and in the mood. If she’s stressed out from work or has a lot on her mind, it may be hard for her to have an orgasm.
- She needs foreplay and a romantic atmosphere. A little mood lighting, a massage, and lots of foreplay will do wonders for her ability to orgasm.
- She must have a skilled partner. Good news...the fact that you are even reading a site about how to give her orgasms puts you light years ahead of the majority.
* All quotes are courtesy of The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality By Shere Hite