You’ve surely heard about the “mysterious” spot that, when properly stimulated, gives women amazing orgasms. But does it really exist? If it does, what exactly is it? Why all the hype? Do all women have one? How do you find it?
You’ll find the answer to all those questions here.
First of all, yes the G-spot exists. It is, however, the subject of debate in the scientific and medical communities. Some “experts” even deny its existence. Apparently, they haven't spoken with one of the many women who have had a G-spot orgasm.
What is the G-spot and where is it located?
The G-spot is a small area about two inches inside and on the front wall of the vagina. It’s about the size of a quarter and may feel a bit rougher than the surrounding tissue.
It’s named after after German doctor Ernst Gräfenberg who first hypothesized its existence in the 1950’s when he wrote about “...an erotic zone on the anterior wall of the vagina” that “swells out greatly at the end of orgasm”.
Another theory is that the G-spot is part of the the clitoral nerve system that extends along the vaginal walls and into the body. Both theories may be at least partially correct since the urethral sponge and the clitoral nerves are closely interconnected.
In the end, all that matters for you is that this area produces extremely pleasant sensations (and orgasms!) for most women.
G-spot orgasms are described as intense, whole body experiences. They usually last longer than clitoral orgasms, and the vagina muscles spasm and contract much more violently. Many say that G-spot orgasms are the most powerful type of orgasm and hit like rolling waves of pleasure.
Curiously, G-spot orgasms cause some women to eject a clear, silky fluid through their urethra. This is most commonly referred to as female ejaculation.
Finding and Stimulating Her G-spot
Ready to get into the good stuff? Below you’ll learn the tips and techniques that will dramatically increase your chances of giving her an amazing G-spot orgasm.
Develop a high-trust relationship
There seems to be a common theme with women who consistently have G-spot orgasms. They are all in relationships that they describe as “safe” or “trusting”.
While this doesn’t mean that it’s not possible to give a woman a G-spot orgasm on the first sexual encounter, it does indicate that a comfortable relationship may allow her to “let go” and orgasm more easily.
Make sure she’s relaxed and in the mood
If you want to give her a G-spot orgasm, you’ll have to spend lots of time on relaxation and foreplay.
After the massage she will be feeling great, relaxed and probably at least a little turned on. Amp it up by kissing her deeply, nibbling her kneck, or doing any other things you know gets her going.
When she’s really hot and bothered, move down and focus on her clitoris until she’s bucking her hips and begging for you inside of her.
Get in a comfortable position
Now you can finally stop teasing and prepare to start your journey towards giving her a G-spot orgasm.
First, find a comfortable position for both of you. Her lying on her back with her knees bent usually works quite well. You can kneel in between or knees, or sit on either side of her. Make sure you’re both comfortable because you may be in this position for a while.
G-spot stimulation technique #1
You may feel a spot on the front wall of her vagina that is rougher or more ridged than the surrounding area. Don’t worry if you can’t tell for sure, the G-spot will grow in size as you stimulate the area. Some women may feel a slight urge to urinate during the initial stages of stimulation. This should soon give way intensifying pleasure.
Keep your motions gentle at first, then slowly increase the pressure as the G-spot becomes larger. When you find the pressure that she best responds too, keep it constant.
G-spot stimulation technique #2
Put your two middle fingers together and bend them forward like you are going to do the “rockin out” sign. Instead of bringing your thumb in, leave it pointed outwards. Now insert just those two fingers inside her and leave the others pointing down. You can now use your arm and shoulder to help move your fingers, all while keeping them perfectly straight up and down on the G-spot.
G-spot stimulation video
This video makes use of computer animation to go inside and have a look at stimulating the G-spot. If you're a visual person, it may help you understand the techniques above more clearly.
Giving her a G-spot orgasm
When she has a G-spot orgasm, you’ll know. Her vagina may contract so violently that it will feel like she’s trying to push your fingers out. G-spot orgasms are also accompanied by uncontrollable panting or moaning and sometimes even female ejaculation.
It may take up to a half an hour of stimulation for her to have a G-spot orgasm, but don’t worry, it’s worth every second.
If you are having difficulty in finding her G-spot, a toy might be just what you need. Toys don’t get tired and many are perfectly curved to make finding the G-spot easier. Check out the Sex Toy Guide to learn about the best toys for G-spot stimulation.
Putting it all together
Whoa that’s a lot of information, how are you supposed to remember and apply it? Don’t worry, here’s a helpful step-by-step recap:
- Understand the G-spot. If you know what the G-spot is and where it’s located, you’ll have a much easier time giving her a G-spot orgasm.
- Relax her. Relaxation and massage are essential to get her prepared for G-spot stimulation. Give her a sensual massage with lots of oil to build intimacy and get her blood flowing.
- Turn her on. The more turned on she is, the easier it will be to give her an orgasm. Give her lots of kissing, touching, and clitoral stimulation before you even think about finding her G-spot.
- Find a comfortable position. Kneel in between or knees or sit on either side of her. Make sure you’re both comfortable.
- Go G-spot hunting! Insert two well-groomed fingers about two inches into her vagina, and crook them back towards you making a “come here” motion. Keep your touch gentle and intensify pressure until you find a firmness and motion she likes.
- Bring some toys. There are many toys specifically designed for finding the G-spot. If you’re having difficulty finding the G-spot, a toy might help.
- Practice, practice, practice! It’s fairly common not to have a G-spot orgasm on the first try. Don’t be discouraged if this happens. Just keep practicing. But make sure you are both having fun; don’t press the issue if she’s not enjoying it.
Communication is key
Clear communication is essential to giving her G-spot orgasms. Ask her how it feels. Does she want firmer pressure? A little higher?
You might even have to try several times before you find success. If that’s the case, don’t make it a big deal. Becoming focused on a sexual “goal” is the easiest way to put unnecessary pressure on yourself and her. And, as you can imagine, pressure is not going to help her have an orgasm of any sort.
However, with clear communication, knowledge, and a little practice, you’ll soon be giving her the most amazing orgasms she’s ever had.